One never knows what may inspire one to get to a laptop and start writing. So when I began, I intended to write on what sruck me first thing as I picked up the newspaper this morning. No, it wasn’t the two front-page advertisements Times of India has been selling to us off-late. Rather, the story on Rashid Ahmed, caught for carrying fake currency and his 8 years sentence in jail. The Times of India was rather vague in the details they provided to this story, so I was obviously shocked in assuming that he was sentenced to jail for not being able to produce the 3 Lakh rupees fine. I was appalled, for if one can spare himself jail time by producing a huge fine- aren’t we buying off justice? What I’m saying is, if there is an option for paying a fine, then one hasn’t committed a crime large enough for the alternative to be jail. I did set my facts straight eventually- though something continued to nibble at the back of my head. That being, the fact that Rashid Ahmed was a Foreign National in an Indian jail. Implying? Well, simply the fact that their immigration body- The Bangladesh High Commission is responsible for assissting them through a case like this one. I’m not saying they didn’t- but if this were (for example) a Canadian National, the case would be dealt-with immediately. We could state that the lapse in management and assistance of the Bangladesh government is not to blame India’s justice system, perhaps. Maybe. Or, it could reflect on the biggest, most basic problem of our justice system: the TIME it takes to provide justice. I’ll state to you the simplest example: Ajmal Kasab. For a high-profile case like his, took approximately 3 years only in convicting him- after which, he was put on a list of people who were yet to receive death sentence (one of them, all the way back since 1991).
People are picked up by the police, innocents in a lot of cases, accused and charged- put into jail, and their case is finally heard in court after years. A lot of times, these are also children. What happens here is, that these children are put into jail with hardcore criminals for years before their hearing- intent of the police being to find someone to charge so the case can be closed. Since the case will be heard in court years later and by then even if the charged is proven innocent, the police doesn’t need to worry about finding the real criminal. In all this, while the criminal roams free, an innocent is serving jail-time for years, with criminals learning nothing but crime. These people when released, are not educated nor have they seen the world. So they do what they know best- crime.
A simple thing as delay in justice continues to breed a further cycle of criminals. As they say, justice delayed is most often than not- justice denied.
‘Why do we stand this bloody climate?’ He asked suddenly, making a gesture towards the rain-distorted window. ‘Look at it! And, if it comes to that.. Look at us. Margo swollen up like a plate of scarlet porridge, Leslie wandering around with fourteen fathoms of cotton wool in each ear, Gerry sounds as though he’s had a cleft palate from birth.. And look at you! You’re looking more decrepit and hag-ridden every day."
My Family and Other Animals, Gerard Durrell
‘Disgusting! The porridge is burnt again!’"
Men for women
Can men help eradicate violence against women? Absolutely. Even with the existence of policies and laws, women continue to remain vulnerable to all kinds of violence. The National Commission for Women Act (1990), Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (2005) and Protection for Women against Sexual Harassment Bill (2007) have all proven futile over the years.
We’re well-aware of the problem: when was the last time someone was punished? When you know you’ll get away, what’s stopping you? Repeatedly, we list a number of solutions. Solutions that are far from achievable. What does one need then? Apart from the obvious: laws that will work and their proper implementation- what? Education. In the recent years, we have come to realize, that in educating the society, can we really change its thinking. In changing the men, can we eradicate the violence. We live in a society that endorses patriarchy so much, that it is often stifling to be a woman. The metropolitans have advanced. But has much else changed? Not very much. The rest of our country still struggles with issues as these on a daily basis. It is a concept so entrenched in our society, that the only possible solution is a stand for women, by men.
What I imply, is that to eradicate violence, it is often necessary for men to stand up for it. Why? To set an example. Women have been fighting for themselves since the beginning of time. What happened? Nothing. Nothing changed, nothing improved. Our country is developing, so is our society, having changed a number of perspectives and outlooks. Today, we can call ourselves aware. Today, we are capable of taking a stand. The two worlds seem so contrary. When the fight is against crimes by men, it becomes imperative for men to take a stand. Agreed, we cannot get by stating that men must take a stand while women sit and wait. But really- is that all that is happening? Women have been fighting. We are not addressing the issue that women must stand up for their rights. Indeed, they must. And they are. In the larger scheme of things- they stand alone. A little help from the opposite sex only shows support, further strengthening their stand.
A Big Fat Punjabi Wedding
Wake up call, 5:30 A.M. We’re headed to Punjab by car, and the road trip is all I’m looking forward to. Of course, apart from the chicken parathas on the way. Any resemblance to Punjab, is ghee and milk to me. As is rule while traveling with dad, his ipod plays on shuffle, and I get to sync my playlist a night before. Some ten thousand songs vs 3.5 thousand and you can imagine my disappointment. We start from home, dad fiddling with the navigation device. 20 mins gone and finally- expressway! “Can you shut your laptop? Then you’re going to feel pukish again” Okay. I take out my ipod and put on the earplugs. What ensues is a conversation on how technology has ruined this generation. We pass Pitampura. Old Danceworx studio, TV tower: such memories! Dad: “TV tower bye bye” Me: “what are you doing?” Dad: “you would say that to the TV tower everytime you came here for your dance classes” And I’m thinking to myself, “Wow, what an embarrassment I must have been” I was under the impression wherever we’re going is on the way to chandigar, so it wouldn’t be all that far. Turns out, its almost twice the distance. The drive was comfortable for most part though, with Guns N Roses and Bob Marley. So we’re now at an army cant- for lack of hotels here. Can’t say I’m excited to be here, mostly because of the weather. I happen to have a major aversion to cold, winter being absolutely painful to me.
Okay. Hot coffee arrives.♥
A Nikita Singh and a Sonal Mohna
A Nikita Singh and um ya- Sonal Mohna*
An average day in the life of a CIMson, is this. You’re visiting a trainee house at 7, planning to leave at 4, meeting Sonal and Singh on the way. At 3, you get a call from Nikita Singh: “I’m going to GK, Pooja is bored.” Okay. 3:15, Pooja: “Come to GK, leave right now.” Okay. 4:15, on the metro, Sonal: “No now I’m not coming, you go” Okay.
One side Pooja’s texting, “take the metro to Kailash Colony” while Singh thinks its a better idea to take an auto from AIIMS. Two girls sitting right next to each other, texting the same person, giving two different instructions. Finally I reach, Pooja already gone. Sonal decides to come finally. We walk to the other side of the market, Sonal says hi, walks right past. She turns up with a Spongebob Balloon (which, Singh completely bewildered, asks- I’ve seen this somewhere. Who is it?).
Sonal starts walking-very-ahead and finally we can’t see her anymore.
Me: Where’s Sonal?
Me: Kaul? Where?
Singh: No no. Call
And we find her. Fighting with a slippers guy, telling him she bought a pair of slippers 6 weeks ago and he gave her the wrong size. That he should refund her money and the slippers actually cost her 500 bucks. She goes on to asking him if he would deliver the slippers to her house in Vasant Kunj.
Nikita Singh, meanwhile, buys Momos when Sonal and I are smart enough to buy Kalla Khatta. Singh realizes the momos were a bad idea and wants Kalla Khatta. Sonal’s. Then mine. Finally her own- while Sonal babies the fake Spongebob.
Sonal: “In Hauz Khas, they give Mayo with it”
Sigh: “Mayo? Hahahaha what a funny name. Wo kya hai?”
Between laughs one of us tells her what it is. “Hahahahaha what a thing to say. Who calls Mayonnaise mayo? Hahahahaha”
Sonal reminds us of the trainee house visit. Auto one goes by, Auto two goes, while Sonal is still talking to her baby balloon. Finally Auto three doesn’t know where the place is, Auto four doesn’t want to take us (thanks to a retarded Sonal on the loose) and Auto five is still fighting with someone else for change. Auto seven accepts us, but Sonal doesn’t want him anymore. So we take a cycle rickshaw, and I share a thigh with Sonal and Singh. While Sonal’s baby is performing for all and sundry in the middle of the street, hanging by the rickshaw, Nikita Singh thinks its a good idea to slip off the rickshaw whenever her butt allows her to. Sonal switches to doing gross things to her baby boy, while I’m fixing my hair, looking for a place to sit, laughing at Singh, all at the same time. The clips start falling. One by one. Eventually my phone falls. Middle of the street in heavy traffic. All kinds of things go over it. Sonal and I jump off the rick, run and pick it up. And we’re screaming! The phone’s perfectly okay and Sonal and I are hugging in the middle of the street with people honking all around. Felt like India won the worldcup. In that minute, and that hug was a big, big change of heart. There’s something about hugging a friend in the middle of the street that changes things. Such love, for you two absolutely annoying girls. I don’t know why it never hit before tonight, how we’d actually bonded through crazy events and OC terms and all the facebook display pictures. But running along the flyover, stopping autos and the one rupee water at Hauz Khas metro station felt a lot different than it otherwise would have.
Also- Nikita Singh, you’re incapable of taking pictures.
Auckland, from the corridor on the second floor.
Pictures: Vaiebhav Gangan